Is it a good idea to become facebook friends when beginning to date someone?
Its girls night. Your out for drinks and you meet someone that may have potential… By the time you’ve exchanged names and he’s walked away you’ve googled him, know where he works, is he a homeowner? Photos, facebook page, descriptions of his 1st born… you get the picture…
Having quick access & such personal insight into someone’s life has started a trend I like to call, “Gray Fever’ and its known to drive people crazy… Its thrown those of us still circling the dating drain into this floating gray zone where monogamy can easily be questioned & a person can be assessed as quick as the click of a friend request.
So you go on a few dates and suddenly you find yourself on their facebook page scoping out the pictures… does he have any quotes? What’s his relationship status? Hometown? Wonder who she is… Next thing you know its 1 am, and you have driven yourself to a little land called facebook hell. You have now seen all these things about the individual with no explanation. You can’t ask! its too soon, right? You certainly cannot react…exclusive? Who knows? Welcome my friends, to the gray zone… What Im realizing is peering into someone’s life through a web portal must be seen just as if you are looking through a peep hole in the door. A small peek into a much larger space.
I must ask, is it worth it? What ever happened to the original method of getting to know someone face to face? Furthermore, are we preventing ourselves of this?
In dating, is technology providing us with TMI too soon?
